Most people identify themselves as either an introvert or an extrovert, but what about the people who fall somewhere between the normal lines? I’m right there with you. I love going out and being surrounded by my friends, but I also crave the time I can spend completely alone with no distractions.
If this sounds like you, here are some more examples of what it’s like being an extroverted introvert (or social introvert if that’s the term you like better) is like.
1. You have no problem talking to strangers but when the conversation is just small talk you’d rather just go back to being alone.
2. If you’re not comfortable in a group of people you keep to yourself in the back.
You love being surrounded by people, but generally only be people you’re comfortable around. Being around a different group of people makes you feel awkward and might even give you a little social anxiety.
3. You have days where you want to talk to everyone and days where you don’t want to be contacted.
Some days you want to be texting all your friends and making plans whereas other days you ignore everyone. It just depends on the day; there is no real explanation other than you have two opposite ways to recharge and you need a balance of both. If you spend too much time around people you are dying to get back to the comfort of your own home. But if you spend too much time alone you desire being around others.
4. You prefer meaningful conversation.
5. You’re always wrapped up in your own head.
You’re always thinking, alone and with people. Your brain goes a million different directions, whether it’s thinking about something you have to do next week or something you forgot to ask a friend there is always something on your mind. You also frequently give yourself pep talks when you need some motivation.
6. Sometimes it’s really hard to get us out.
Because what if it isn’t fun or isn’t worth it? I’d probably end up regretting getting up and leaving behind my books and laptop. But what if it’s the best time and everyone’s talking about how fun it is? There are nights when you don’t want to do anything and nights when you want to do everything.
7. Just because you like being alone doesn’t mean you like being lonely.
There is a total difference between the two. You like being alone because you choose to be alone. But you don’t like being alone because you don’t have anyone there for you. Being alone and spending time doing your own thing is what makes you happy, but being with people also makes you happy. Being lonely satisfies nothing and completely kills both moods.
8. You enjoy listening to others.
You enjoy listening to others because sometimes all you want is someone to listen to you. Even when you don’t have anything to say, you listening helps someone out because they know you’re involved. But listening to someone who has something going on engages us because we feel important, like we are doing something good for someone.
9. You’re selectively social.
You enjoy being social, but you don’t want to be social with everyone. People that are involved in a lot of drama are completely out of your interest range. You don’t enjoy talking negatively about others and you’d rather avoid people who do. It makes you extremely uncomfortable.
10. You make new friends easily, but have a harder time maintaining those friendships.
Making friends is no problem for you. When you’re out you love being out. You talk to people, you’re social and you’re happy. But after the night out is over and you wake up the next morning the importance of maintaining that friendship isn’t very high. Whether it be because you don’t feel like texting anyone or because you don’t want to leave the house it’s the maintenance that is the real struggle for you.
NOT MY OWN WRITING. ORIGINAL SOURCE: idealist4ever